Golfy Golf

There are the sandals

And where are the kids?

Holiday has run with nothing to do. So Dan took the kids to play golf with him. I guess that was a great idea. I can feel the excitement just seeing the pictures Dan sent me via BBM...

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the growth

Ai' is late in growth. I started realize this when he was 9 months. his weight was stuck, and that is not normal. too late I know. a 9 months baby should have been able to sit stable. and crawl. and stand up holding on something. he did neither one.
Ai' itu terlambat tumbuh kembangnya. aku baru benar-benar menyadarinya ketika umurnya sudah 9 bulan. beratnya ngga nambah, jelas itu ngga normal. terlambat memang. anak umur 9 bulan harusnya sudah bisa duduk tegak. merangkak. atau berdiri berpegangan. Ai' belum bisa apa pun.

so I went to a doctor, a growth specialist. she told me many possibilities that may caused this late growth of Ai'. it was so horrible I couldn't stand not to cry. I almost got fainted I got out the doctor's room to get some air and breathe.
lalu aku mengajaknya konsultasi ke dokter spesialis tumbuh kembang anak. kata dokternya, ada banyak kemungkinan yang menyebabkan keterlambatan ini. kedengarannya mengerikan. aku ngga tahan waktu dengar dokter menjelaskan. nangis. mau pingsan. aku sampai lari keluar, cari udara segar.

Ai' was underweight. the first diagnose was he got TBC. and the worst was, he might has CMV that he got while in pregnancy. to make sure which one he was having, he needed to have some blood test, and X-ray, and mantoux test. that was the first filter.
berat badan Ai' kurang. diagnosa pertama dia kena TBC. diagnosa terburuk, dia kena CMV yang kemungkinan didapat sewaktu dia masih dalam kandungan. untuk meyakinkan mana yang dia idap, dia harus menjalani serangkaian tes darah, rontgen, dan tes mantoux.

positive. Ai' was having TBC. so we worked on that before doing a CT-scan, that might not be needed if TBC treatment brings developments. beside the treatment for the TBC, we give him a therapy for his motoric activity.
hasilnya positif. Ai' kena TBC. langkah pertama adalah penyembuhan TBC-nya. CT-scan untuk pembuktian CMV mungkin tidak diperlukan, kalau pengobatan ini berhasil memberi kemajuan. selain pengobatan rutin, Ai' juga diberi terapi untuk latihan motoriknya.

he used to 'swim' on the floor to move from here to anywhere
dulu dia 'berenang' kalau pengin ke mana-mana
 

we do the therapy twice a week in the first month. and now once a week. at the beginning doing the therapy was such an abuse, but later as he knows the therapist, he enjoys it and thinks it was a play time.
di bulan pertama, terapi-nya dua kali seminggu. sekarang seminggu sekali. awalnya, menjalani terapi itu seperti siksaan. tapi setelah dia hapal dengan terapisnya, dia bisa menikmati. malah dia pikir itu main-main aja..
 

we bring him go swimming. well we need to this more often
kami juga mengajaknya berenang. kalau ini masih kurang sering...

now he can sit stable for quite long. and he can stand holding on table, or us
sekarang Ai' bisa duduk tegak cukup lama. bisa berdiri berpegangan meja, atau orang dewasa.
 

and he crawls.
dan dia merangkak.

I know it is still too late for a 13 months baby. but it is better late than never. we will not stop giving him more stimulation to catch up the growth. wish us luck!
aku tahu, ini masih ketinggalan jauh untuk bayi 13 bulan. tapi mending telat daripada enggak sama sekali. kami tidak akan berhenti memberi stimulasi untuk mengejar ketertinggalan pertumbuhannya. doakan kami ya...






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The Comfort

I found that some babies have special stuffs to comfort them in the bed times. One of my nephew has a little towel he holds while asleep. The other one has a little soft fabric doggie. My friend's daughter can not sleep without her ugly little bolster.
aku mendapati beberapa anak punya barang kesayangan yang membuat mereka nyaman tidur. salah satu keponakanku punya handuk kecil yang dikeloni kalau tidur. yang lain punya boneka anjing dari kain. anak temenku ga bisa tidur kalau ga peluk guling kecil jeleknya.

It's cute. But it would be a disaster when you go somewhere without those stuffs. They can not sleep. Or at least hard to sleep well and sound. That's why I never let my kids have one.
lucu sih. tapi repot kalau pas bepergian kelupaan ga bawa. anaknya jadi ga bisa tidur. kalau bisa pun pakai rewel dan gelisah. makanya aku ga biasakan anakku punya barang-seperti itu.

I thought.
pikirku.

Because in fact Ai' has such stuff. That ugly beads bracelet around my wrist. He's not too much depending on it. But it helps a lot to comfort him. I was thinking about putting the bracelet on his wrist. But beads are not safe for babies, I think.
karena kenyataannya Ai' punya. itu gelang manik-manik jelek yang aku pakai. Ai' ga terlalu tergantung pada gelang itu sih. tapi sangat membantu untuk membuat dia merasa nyaman dan cepet tidur. sempat terpikir untuk masang gelang itu di tangannya aja. tapi manik-manik itu berbahaya buat bayi..


So I assume it is me that comforts him. Ya, me wearing the bracelet. And it feels so good...
jadi aku berasumsi bahwa yang bikin nyaman itu aku. aku yang memakai gelang itu. rasanya menyenangkan...

They left for heaven.

Not these ones. Kiki and Niki are left here, on earth. This evening, Naka just left us. Hit by a car, no body knows whose car it was. Ibit found it lying on the ground, bloody, and dead.

Our cats are specials. They always welcome us when ever we come from any where. It's wonderful, but dangerous at the same time. They like to run beside the rolling wheels. The kids have to hold them each time I or Dan need to get the car in or outta the garage. Once the kids were in their Qur'an Class, nobody could carry them while I drove. I had to put the cats in the car until I finished parking.

Dan hit Nowy I few months ago. Since then we always have been aware about the cats around the parking area. Parking and unparking has become a traumatic moment. Well, we did our best. But we can't prevent other cars from passing by in front of our house while the kittens playing around...

I know I have a picture of Naka, just not sure in which cell phone I keep it. Later when I find it, I'll upload it here.

Hh....
Bye bye, Naka. Have you met Nuku, Nowy I and Nowy II, and play with them in heaven?

2a dan 2b

Buatku mereka bukan anak kedua dan ketiga. Tapi 2a dan 2b, karena mereka berdua kuhamilkan (bahasanya...) Di kehamilanku yang kedua.
Sampai hari ke-10 setelah mereka lahir, aku belum berani melepas tag di pergelangan tangan mereka. Aku masih belum bisa membedakan mana G-I (Ar) dan mana G-2 (Ir). Untung Mbah putrinya kemudian nemu bahwa unyeng-unyeng Ar dua, dan punya Ir satu. Langsung aku gunting tagnya.
Di awal-awal pertumbuhan mereka, aku membedakan mereka dari rambut Ar yang lebih lebat. Itu cara termudah, sebelum memperhatikan bahwa muka Ir lonjong dan Ar cenderung kotak. Bagaimana pun, ketika mereka mulai semakin besar, berjalan, berlari... Makin susah membedakan kalau dari kejauhan.
Dari awal aku tidak memakaikan baju kembar. Kalau mereka pakai baju kembar, itu berarti orang lain yang belikan, bukan aku. Aku pakaikan Ar baju biru dan Ir merah. Mereka juga lebih suka pakai baju beda. Dan cuma mau kembar kalau sekalian kembaran berlima dengan sepupu mereka yang sebaya. Dan lama-lama mereka juga ngga mau lagi melulu pakai biru atau merah. Jadi taktik warna baju tidak bisa dilanjutkan.
Aku juga menerapkan taktik potong rambut. Satu masa Ar digondrongin, Ir-nya dicepakin. Nanti lain waktu dituker. Tapi kemaren potong rambut dianter buliknya. Aku lupa pesen untuk bedain, jadi dua-duanya dipotong cepak :((
Sampai sekarang aku masih bingung membedakan suara mereka di telpon. Dulu ketika Ir belum bisa bilang 'R', aku akan minta si penelepon bilang 'motor'. Tapi setelah bisa, taktik ini ga bisa lagi diterapkan...

Sore ini mereka foto untuk kelengkapan ujian kenaikan tingkat taekwondo. Kata bapaknya: yang poto satu aja ya, Ar apa Ir, kan mukanya sama. Ayo suit, yang menang poto.
Huh, bapak yang aneh!