Hari Ibu yang ke-sekian.

She knew I would knock her door and wake her up for morning prayer. Looks like she woke up earlier and put this in front of her door and back to sleep. Or pretended to.

mana ibu?

mana ibit?
 

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"Untuk ibu tergaul
dan ter-anti gaptek

Selamat Hari Ibu
Happy Mother's Day
Araw Pagbati Ina
Muttertags - Glückwunsche

*Sumber: Google Translate

Maafkan anak gadismu yang keseringan main HP. Mungkin kalau aku ngurangin main HP aku bisa jadi ranking satu, ya...

Stay young, stay healthy
Rajin rajin yoga
Semoga lancar selalu
Wo aini."
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"Ibu aja nangis, ngko aku melu nangis"
"Ya wis tak adus wae"

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Ulang tahun kemarin ucapannya masih 'semoga bisa aerobic sampai tua', sekarang sudah ganti :))

 

Juga ada hadiah kecil dari Aik, yang dibikin bersama Bu Guru di sekolah. Anything he does would simply melt my heart...

 

Dan juga senyum manis dan malu dari sepasang anak kembar yang 'cuma' berkata, "he... aku tahu, ini Hari Ibu' tapi tidak pernah lupa bilang 'terima kasih' jika aku melakukan sesuatu buat mereka...

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I am so happy that Ibit chose to congratulate me on 22 December instead of on that world's Mother's Day in May. Because this Indonesian Mother's Day is honoring women more than mother, but also their existence in and outside the house, their contribution to family, society, nation, religion, human  lives. My kids understand why I 'leave' them for work and all other activities. 

Every year I think 'this is the best Mother's Day I ever have' but that because I didn't know what next Mother's Day would be. I'm not the best mother in the world, I could've been better if I would struggle more. But this is how I make myself a happy mother, so I can make my  kids happier.

happy mother's day!

in Indonesia :D

my kids gave me this:




and this is what they had to say


happy mother's day
we made this card
we love you
although you some times get mad
but you've been taking care of us
thank you for everything

:ar, ir, ur:

(sometimes I call ibit 'ur')

washing and gossiping

nyuci sambil nggosip



what mothers did, what mothers do?
apa yang dilakukan ibu-ibu jaman dulu, apa yang dilakukan ibu-ibu jaman sekarang?

long ago, women in java and in many other places, washed clothes in the river, yes they did. some women even still do in some places. washing clothes is a precious moment, when they can have women talk while washing. any talk about kids, husband, cooking, or gossiping.
dulu, di jawa, dan di banyak tempat lain, ibu-ibu nyuci di kali. sampai sekarang juga masih ada. mencuci di kali adalah saat berharga, karena para ibu itu bisa sambil ngobrolin apa aja. anak, suami, masakan, dan... ngegosip!

picture taken from here

nowadays, mostly in cities, they no longer do it that way. they use this:
sekarang, terutama di kota-kota, ga ada lagi namanya nyuci di kali. pakai ini:

means, they do it in their own houses, can't meet other women who may be doing the same thing at the same time. does it mean they can't do gossip thing while washing?
artinya, mereka nyuci di rumah masing-masing, ga bisa ketemu ibu-ibu lain yang mungkin sebenernya pada saat yang sama juga sedang melakukan hal yang sama. apakah ini berarti sudah hilang saat-saat bergossip sambil nyuci?

not really, they still can do it. they don't even have to do the same thing. a friend was washing, I was in my office, and another friend was baking something while we were having conversations using this:
ga juga, masih bisa kok. bahkan ga harus lagi nyuci semua. ada yang sedang nyuci, aku lagi di kantor, yang lain sedang memanggang sesuatu di oven; dan kami bercakap-cakap pakai ini:

seems like technology doesn't change women's natural habits :)
tampaknya teknologi tidak mempengaruhi kebiasaan alami perempuan :)